Recently, my organization organized a task for game day. They decided to ask a question to each employee, and the employees had to explain the answer for one minute straight. And in doing so, one particular question garnered everyone's attention. And that question was, "Should you choose marriage or live-in?" "Which one do you think is right?" Now, the employee responded in a somewhat appropriate manner. But it ignited an interesting idea in my mind to make a blog out of it.
Nowadays, everyone has warmed up to the idea of a live-in relationship. And society is changing as it always has; people are no longer as opposed to it as they once were. Then it was a debate over whether a couple should be allowed to live together without a certificate, but now it has taken on a new form of discussion. Now the question is whether you should live in or choose marriage over it.
We'll get to the answer, but let's first explore a little bit of the history surrounding marriage.
Marriage wasn't a concept till 2350 B.C., and since then, it has become a standard practice or license for a couple to stay together forever. The primary purpose of marriage back then was to bind men and women in a bond and guarantee that a man's children were truly his biological heirs.
Now that you know when the concept of marriage arrived, let's take a trip down memory lane to where the concept of "live-in" was first introduced to us. Back then, it used to be known as cohabitation. It's an arrangement between couples in which they live together but do not share their last names.And, it's been around since the twentieth century, and at this point, everyone is getting along because it's been legalized by the justice associations of almost all countries.
Now that we know about both of the practices, let's talk about which one you should choose.
I believe you should always choose marriage. Live-in feels like a consolation price, and I'll tell you how.
Every relationship starts with a few basic things and has certain stages:
1. Attraction: You fall after, but you get attracted first. Attraction is always mistaken for love, but love is way different. Love makes you want to live with their worst and their best for the whole of your life. However, attraction is similar to love in that you admire their personality but are unsure about your future together.
2. Need: People frequently overlook the fact that they always need someone in their lives.Whether in any shape or form, Whether it's a hugsy, Mom, Dad, or a friend, But, when you combine the aptitude of all four previously mentioned examples, you get a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
3. Desire: Now, after following the above two paths, you have already come close to this person. Now you have this desire to keep that person in your life, perhaps forever or until death separates us. But, nevertheless, you have this desire that you won't be able to be apart, and that is the third stage in your relationship.
4. Love: In India, people don't really understand the term. Many people have mistaken love for liking and ended up saying it in the first place, which is incorrect. Love necessitates a certain amount of preparation. You can't just start the relationship with love and then move on to other aspects, because that would ruin the sync, and it's not worth it, believe me.
5. Marriage or live-in: The reason for love being last is that you must embrace your partner with all of their flaws and still want to see them die. That's where you click on the love button in your mind because even after seeing that much, you still want to stick around. And, now, there's only one thing left to do: "tie the knot" and get together, or "don't tie 'em" and live together.
Opinion: Did I use the term "live-in" harshly because doing so is harsh? Cohabitation can last from one month to an eternity. You've already explored the majority of your partner, and now you want to test the waters because you're unsure about the future? Trust me, if you still have this doubt after saying the love part, you should reconsider the love part. Love is divine, and one needs to understand its worth. You don't say it to everyone else but the ones you desperately want to keep in your life.
People always give compatibility as an excuse for a live-in relationship. A relationship is a constant struggle to maintain and keep for as long as possible. Since divorce has been made casual by society, people always have that option as their last resort. However, it is easy to forget that everything in life involves struggle. And, if you are scared of that little struggle to tie the knot and live with your partner, you'd better not get involved at all.
Another reason people give for cohabitation is that they don't need society's approval or don't believe in any of its norms. Trust me, guys, marriage isn't just a ritual or societal norm but a celebration of your love for one another, and don't think of it as a license to live together but as a union you have commemorated in a certain practice. And, if you don't still conjure up the courage to do that, you have your doubts about the partner and seriously need to do some rethinking.
Thank you for the read, guys. I believe not everyone got what they desired from the article, but I believe I made some important points. So, please read it and let me know where I fell short.
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